7 Ways To Improve Your Self Confidence Hacks:
Okay, I know what you're thinking. What are ways to improve your self-confidence and confidence hacks? The word "hacks" has been so overused lately that it's practically meaningless.
The problem is that people think hacks are things that are gonna give them instant results without them having to do any work at all. These confidence hacks are different because they do require some effort on your part. But each one is a highly targeted action that you can take to get an almost immediate boost to your mood and self-esteem. Without further ado, here are ten ways you can legitimately increase your confidence when you need it most.
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What are 7 ways to boost your self-confidence?
1. Get out of your head and into your body.
One of the biggest enemies of confidence on a daily basis is your own mind--yes, your own mind. Some people speculate that the human mind has up to 70 thousand thoughts per day.
Because humans have evolved to be on constant alert for danger and threats to their survival, many of those thoughts are negative. The constant "what if?" What if I'm not good enough?
What if I fail?
Sometimes we get so caught up in our negative thoughts that we go down a rabbit hole. If you've ever been stuck in a negative headspace, you know that trying to think your way out of it is nearly impossible. That's why the quickest way to change your mood and confidence is to change your physiology--by moving your body.
Not only does exercise distract you from negative thoughts, but it's also been shown to increase your sense of well-being by releasing feel-good endorphins that reduce anxiety and boost your confidence.
Even if you can't exercise.
Consciously adjusting your posture can have an almost immediate impact on your mood.
According to Harvard professor Amy Cuddy, just two minutes of simple "power poses," such as standing with your hands on your hips, can lower cortisol (a stress hormone) and raise testosterone. Together, these effects can make you feel more relaxed and more confident.
2. Harness the power of scent.
Scent has a powerful effect on us. Have you ever noticed how a single smell can transport you back to a very specific memory in a way no other sense can? It shouldn't be surprising that wearing a better-smelling fragrance can make us feel more put-together and well-groomed. However, a 2009 study showed that wearing fragrances can increase.
How confident we appear to other people.
In a double-blind study, women were asked to watch videotapes of men who were either wearing cologne or not. Surprisingly, the women were more attracted to the men wearing cologne, even though they couldn't smell them. In a nutshell, when you smell good, you feel more confident, which makes you act more confident. And people notice. That's why wearing cologne can often be that x-factor in our grooming routine, taking us from a ho-hum day to feeling like we're on top of the world.
I haven't worn a lot of cologne in the past, so I'm just starting to dip my toe into the world of fragrance.
About a year and a half ago, I discovered a company called Scentbird, which is essentially for fragrances. There are a lot of things that are great about this for people who either don't wear a lot of cologne regularly or who are just starting out with fragrance.
First, fragrances come in small spray sizes, so you're not stuck with a big bottle of something you absolutely hate. That also lets you "date" different fragrances without having to commit to one so soon.
Secondly, shopping for a fragrance with Scentbird is much more comfortable, especially if you're like me and don't like the department store perfume counter atmosphere, with bright lights and the cacophony of smells.
I mean, sometimes it's really hard to tell what you're smelling when you're there. It's totally overwhelming. So Scentbird partners with designer brands--everything from Tom Ford to Gucci to Prada to Guerlain. And so their selection.
3. Perform a small act of kindness for someone else.
Another great way to boost your confidence is to pause for a moment, step out of your own problems, and focus on someone else for a change.
We get so caught up in our own drama and baggage that we sometimes forget a simple truth: we can make other people happy. You'd be surprised. Knowing that you've brightened someone's day can often help ease the petty concerns you've had about your own day. And guess what? Helping other people has a physiological effect that can boost your mood as well.
In the book The Healing Power of Doing Good, Allan Luks and Peggy Payne discuss how helping others can trigger what they call a "helper high." Similar to the runner's high that athletes experience, helping other people can trigger the release of endorphins, and after that initial rush, you experience a longer period of calm and emotional well-being.
Go out and do something nice for a stranger.
I mean, you can go so far as volunteering at a local shelter for half a day. And I've got to say that nothing puts your petty concerns in perspective like being around a bunch of people who don't have regular access to a warm meal or a warm bed. But it could also be as simple as paying for a stranger's coffee in line at Starbucks. You're going to be surprised at how good you feel afterward.
4. Take a calculated risk.
Another way to skyrocket your confidence almost instantly is to step outside your comfort zone. We spend so much of our lives in a confined sphere: work, home, friends, family. In that familiar environment, our self-criticisms and problems seem much bigger and much more difficult to solve.
We forget how invigorating it can be to get a different perspective. Challenge ourselves. Take a risk. And I'm not talking about anything physically dangerous.
I mean, there are plenty of social risks that can be just as scary. Single? Grow a pair and finally approach that girl you've been meaning to talk to. Ask your boss for a raise. Try a new haircut. Take a class to learn a new skill. Attend a conference or plan a trip to a place where you don't know anyone else.
So many of these things initially seem like risks.
But once you actually work up the courage to take the leap, a huge weight is lifted off your shoulders. You think to yourself, "I was afraid to do this?" The best part is that even if you don't reach your intended target the first time.
Even if you fail,
you still feel better about yourself because you had the cojones to put yourself out there and try. And after a while, this urge to look fear in the face and go for it really becomes addictive, because you feel a positive momentum in your life, and it gives you a lot of confidence.
5. Reconnect with play.
Another thing that sometimes zaps our confidence is this constant drive to achieve more. Technology has made it so we're always on when it comes to work, and the rat race is more of a grind than ever.
We feel like we have to constantly push ourselves to work harder and achieve more, but it's never quite enough. So maybe the solution isn't working harder; it's allowing ourselves to rediscover play.
As Charlie Hoehn writes in Play it Away,
sometimes the simple joys of reconnecting with play can do wonders for our confidence and our stress levels.
No longer are we beating ourselves up for not pushing and achieving more. We're simply allowing ourselves to be. Rather than trying to be productive, for once, maybe you should just let yourself enjoy playing a game, doing a puzzle, shooting hoops, playing catch, and being a kid again.
Charlie says, "Play is a state where we are truly ourselves once we let go of our egos and fear of looking stupid." Ironically, allowing yourself periods of play can actually increase your productivity. That release that comes from letting go of stress for just a few hours, perhaps, can help improve your focus, creativity, confidence, and satisfaction with work and life in general.
6. Talk to yourself.
Now, whether you realize it or not, you already talk to yourself all the time. What we sometimes forget is that we have the power to decide whether that self-talk is positive or negative. Think positive self-talk is too woo-woo for you?
Do you know who else gets motivated by talking to themselves?
(Navy SEALs. Oh yeah, and Olympic athletes.) Even with their elite training and extreme physical fitness, Navy SEALs and Olympic athletes have realized that psyching themselves up and squashing negative self-talk is key to achieving peak performance. But it turns out there's a right way and a wrong way to talk to yourself.
Personal development guru Gary John Bishop believes
positive affirmations don't work because we're trying to convince ourselves of something we fundamentally don't believe. "I'm a killer on the dance floor."
Ladies can't resist my super sexy moves!"
That's a great aspiration, but when you try to tell yourself you've already achieved something you haven't, it feels disconnected in your mind. So rather than using positive affirmations, Bishop recommends using positive assertions.
The difference is that assertions are things you can legitimately make on your own. One of the big assertions Bishop mentions is the phrase "I am willing." "I am willing to put in the work to be a good dancer. And I'm willing to get out there on the dance floor and make a fool of myself to impress the ladies." Assertions work because they don't conflict with reality. You can make them true, and no one can take that away from you.
7. Create an "awesome log."
Now, a final way to boost your confidence is to remind yourself of past successes. We all have little wins almost every day. The problem is that we forget about them. At best, we allow ourselves a few moments to bask in the afterglow, but very quickly we're on to the next stressor and the next challenge. It helps to sit down and think about all the times you've had little wins and when things have gone well.
But it also helps to have a system to capture those things going forward. That's why you should create an "awesome log" and use it to keep track of little personal wins, great compliments you've received, small victories at work, meaningful conversations you don't want to forget, and things that made you proud.
So, you could go analog with this,
Simply record this stuff in a notebook or use an app like Evernote. Or have a little fun and make it more interactive by putting Post-it notes in a mason jar. That way, you can watch your awesome log grow right before your eyes. If you're having trouble thinking of past victories, ask for help. Ask your friends or co-workers.
Often, they'll remember positive experiences you may have forgotten. By capturing those thoughts going forward, you can refer back to your awesome log whenever you need a little pick-me-up, and you can remember, "Oh yeah, that's right: I am awesome! And here are a few reasons why..." Alright, gentlemen.
8. Befriend Yourself: Ditch the Inner Critic
The first step to building confidence is recognizing your inner voice. Is it professional, or your worst critic? We all have that worried inner voice that loves to point out our shortcomings.
It weakens us. But here's the thing: you control that voice. Instead of letting it dictate your every move, challenge its negativity. When that voice whispers, "You'll never be good enough," counter it with a resounding, "I am capable and worthy!"
Here's a trick: Imagine a friend going through the same situation. Would you tear them down? (Absolutely not!) So treat yourself with the same kindness and encouragement you'd offer a loved one.
9. Visualize yourself as you want to.
Our self-image means so much to us, often more than we realize. We have a mental picture of ourselves, and it determines how confident we feel.
When we struggle with low self-confidence, we have a poor, often inaccurate, perception of ourselves.
Visualization is the practice of seeing an image of yourself that you are proud of in your mind, so practice visualizing the best version of yourself.
10. Embrace Your Achievements (Big and Small)
We often get caught up in the daily routine, and our accomplishments fade into the background.
Take time to celebrate yourself. Write down a list of things you're proud of, big or small. Did you finally master that tricky yoga pose? Have you delivered that presentation? Don't downplay these wins. Acknowledging your achievements, no matter how small they may seem, builds a foundation of self-belief.
This list of achievements will be your personal confidence boost. Whenever you doubt yourself, revisit it and remind yourself of all you've overcome and achieved.
Feeling overwhelmed by lofty, unrealistic goals is a recipe for discouragement. Instead, set SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound.
These bite-sized goals will give you a clearer path to success and help you experience the joy of accomplishment along the way.
Let's say you want to become a more confident public speaker. Start with a smaller goal, such as joining a local Toastmasters club. As you achieve these smaller goals, your confidence will grow, naturally propelling you toward bigger challenges.
12. Put in the work. It's hard to be confident.
When you don't think you'll do well at something, eat that feeling by preparing yourself as much as possible, whether it's public speaking, a road test, or something else entirely. You need to know what you're doing and how to do it. To be confident, you need to practice. No one ever felt confident doing something for the first time, the tenth time, or even the hundredth time.
13. Redefine fear and failure within your relationship.
Fear and failure can hold you back and cause your self-confidence to plummet. To help prevent this from happening, you need to change the way you think about fear and failure and try to see fear as an opportunity to progress and failure as a chance to gather valuable feedback on what you need to work on. By doing this, fear of failure becomes a tool for progression instead of a reason not to do something.
14. Empower yourself with knowledge.
Empowering yourself in general is one of the best strategies to build self-confidence. You can do this in many ways, but one of the best ways to empower yourself is through knowledge. By becoming more knowledgeable, you'll be more confident. You become more knowledgeable by doing research and studying. You can find information on the internet, read books and magazines, or take courses. You can also learn from people around you who have done what you want to achieve.
15. Shift to an equality mentality.
Low self-confidence leads you to see others as better or more deserving than yourself. Instead of carrying this perception, see yourself as equal to everyone. You are no better. Make a mental shift to an equality mentality, and you will automatically see improvement in your confidence.
16. Embody confidence whenever you find yourself
Step out of your comfort zone, whether by chance or choice. Stop for a moment, close your eyes, and think of a time when you felt confident and self-assured. Use all of your senses to bring yourself back to that moment. By doing this, you'll be better able to cultivate that feeling in the present moment. Or just think about how a confident person would act in that situation, and do what they would do. You'll be amazed at how soon you'll find yourself feeling confident and capable.
17 smile Yeah:
You've probably heard this one a thousand times, but it really does work. We are social beings, and we thrive on social interaction, especially positive social interaction. It can make us feel happy, confident, and content. Think about how your mood changes when someone smiles back at you, or even when you just crack a smile to yourself. Next time you feel low in confidence, try smiling. It will make you feel a lot better.
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Conclusion:
I hope you enjoyed that article. Now I want to hear from you: what other confidence hacks have you used to boost your confidence? Confidence affects almost everything you do, from what you think to what you say and even how you look. By using the tips in this article, you can learn to be confident in almost any situation and start going after the things you want most in life. What do you think? Do you know any other tips that can help boost confidence? Let us know in the comments below if you enjoyed it.
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