5 Tips To Start Today How To Hold Yourself Accountable for Mistakes!

 

 

 

 

How do you hold yourself accountable for mistakes…and get things done?

Two years back, I wasn't the kind of person who could do this. It simply seemed like I was always juggling from one aspect to another.

I knew what I needed to do in order to have what I desired. But I wasn't doing it!

Do you hear?

Now, I will instruct you on how to be disciplined. regardless.

 Ready to begin?


In this writing, we're talking about how to be accountable to yourself, and goal-setting......for mistakes

........ and how to keep yourself accountable for goals.  

Self-accountability and self-discipline are learned skills.  

If you want to learn how to hold yourself accountable for goals, then this writing is for you.

 

 

 

How do you hold yourself accountable for mistakes

You devote yourself to reaching your essential goal while feeling proud about your dedicated work

 

until a communication failure produces a sudden problem that damages your progress and breaks your self-confidence...

Acquiring expertise in personal accountability. 

proves exceptionally challenging. Research shows individuals choose to 

 

put fault on others instead of themselves which results in their natural tendency to evade accountability. 

 

This psychological pattern exists among most individuals. 

 

We should not take the blame because we believe the mistake was not our fault...

Controlling responsibility stands as a key quality.

That supports individual development so you can master mistakes.

 

Through accountability practice, one establishes mental patterns that motivate others to acknowledge

 

 Their mistakes and gain valuable knowledge from them. 

 

Your self-improvement path requires you to eliminate your avoidance of taking responsibility.

 

 

 

 How can I improve my accountability?

"I am late. Traffic got me stuck." Sorry "Tomorrow I will do that project. Today I did not have time." "that is not as well as it can be. 

 

I was really tired." In this word Sound familiar? 

 

You have likely said these very words yourself. They are excuses—and they allow us to avoid taking responsibility for ourselves.

Excuses are a habit, but they are not acceptable. 

 

Excuses are employed to keep us from going out of our comfort zones and developing. 

 

Real winners do not make excuses—they take responsibility for everything in their lives, and it makes them successful.

 

 

 

How to hold yourself accountable for studying

Raise your hand. If in your life there is a gap, a gap between what you want to do and what you actually do.

Yeah, there is a gap for a lot of us. And that gap,

 

The self-accountability gap, 

is exactly what I want to talk to you about in today's writing. Hi, I am Safar, and I am a person who used to seriously struggle with self-accountability. 

I cannot tell you the amount of projects I have started and abandoned, or goals I have set and let go of over and over and over again.

Throughout most of my life,  

I was really struggling with this exact concept, but then I went to school for six years and got a PhD focused on health behavior change, 

 

and I learned a lot of the science behind things like self-accountability, and that helped really turn things around for me.

This science is exactly what I want to bring you today. 

 
I want to bring you three tangible tips for becoming more self-accountable. But before we do that, we have to start off with a mindset shift that I want you to make now.

Raise your hand. If you have ever told yourself, I just need to be more self-accountable, or I just need to hold myself accountable.
 

 I am deciding right now to hold myself accountable. 

Any of those things. If you are giving me a yes, make sure you put your answer in the comments so that we can all know we are not alone. Here is the problem with that. 

 

Self-accountability is not a decision, The mindset shift

It is not an action; It is not a choice. Self-accountability is a skill, and that is a really, really important mindset shift to make because 

 

it is going to shift your focus from deciding to do something and then, 

when you can or cannot do it, being right or wrong about that into growing yourself.

Accountability skills, the same way you would grow your guitar-playing skills piano-playing skills,

 

 or French language skills. So you are probably asking me, okay, okay, 

 

If self-accountability is a skill like you say it is, how in the world do I practice that skill?

 

 

How to hold yourself accountable for mistakes Three ways.

Tip number one is to go on a commitment strike.
What is a commitment strike? You ask? Well, a commitment strike is when you make as few

 

Commitments to yourself as possible for seven to 10 days and stop telling yourself you are going to wake up early. Stop telling yourself you're going to go to the gym.

 

Yes, literally give up all expectations that you have of yourself. And here is the reason for that.

I want you to think about your relationship with self-accountability as if it is your relationship with a friend.


If that friend is constantly disappointing you, they are constantly bailing, and they are constantly not showing up—that kind of hurts.

But if you take some time away from that friend,
if you give yourself a little bit of distance for a couple of months, you might be able to build that relationship back up.

The same is true with self-accountability.

A lot of times when we are struggling with self-accountability, it is because we are.

Actually overcommitting.

We are telling ourselves that we are going to do things that are perfectionist or unrealistic or do not actually fit into our daily lives.

........ And so giving ourselves a clean slate is the first step to building that self-accountability skill back.

So once you have spent seven to 10 days not promising yourself you are going to do anything, then you can start to build that trust foundation back up with tiny, tiny tasks. 

I want you to start with the stuff that you almost know for certain that you are actually going to do anyway.

So, for example, you might promise yourself, Hey, I promise I am going to get up in the morning tomorrow and drink coffee.

If you drink coffee every day, that is an easy promise to fulfill. Then you might start with something really tiny, like, 

 

I am going to promise myself that tomorrow 

 

I am going to get outside for at least 10 minutes. 

These tasks should be so small that it would be virtually impossible for you not to follow through on them.

if there is a circumstance where you do not follow through, that is okay. Back up, make the action smaller, and try again.

A quick tip is to ask yourself, on a scale of one to 10, how confident am I that I can get this done?

if your answer is not nine or above, you need to change that task and make it smaller for yourself.

This over time is going to build back that sense of accountability.

 
So eventually, you will be able to tell yourself, 

 

I need to do a hard thing tomorrow and follow through on it. But we cannot start there.

We have to start and grow our skills.

 
Just like if you were learning piano, you cannot start off by playing Tchaikovsky's Fifth Symphony. 

 

You have to start off by playing Mary Had a Little Lamb.


I am going to pause here for a minute and say if you do not know how to take your goal and break it into tiny steps, 

I am going to link the post that I just did about that exact topic so that you can go read that if you need some help.

Let's move on to.

 

Tip number three. 

And this one is going to be a little bit harsh. This is going to be a little bit of a poke. So do not, don't get too uncomfortable, but you need to come face to face with your lack of follow-through.

A lot of times, when we are struggling with self-accountability, what happens is we want to ignore what happened yesterday.

We say, Oh, I told myself i had to go to the gym yesterday, and I did not go, but i am just going to forget about that and move on and try again. Today. 

 

The problem is, that our best teacher in our lives is our own behavior.

We need to study ourselves as diligently as we would study for a test that we absolutely need to ace.

So in those moments where you do not follow through, in those moments where you promise yourself something, and then you do not actually do it, 

 

I want you to get really curious about why that happened.

One of my favorite phrases in behavioral psychology is this: every behavior is an attempt to solve a. Problem. Your brain is not working against you.


And as soon as we start figuring out The reasons why you skip that workout, or you eat that thing you.

 

do not want to eat, or you spend on Amazon instead of saving for your goal, as soon as we figure out the reason why.

The real reason why those things are happening is that we are going to be able to fulfill those needs in other areas. And yes, in this process of reflection, 

 

you might feel a little frustrated.

You might feel guilty, but the truth is, we cannot run away from those emotions or run away from what happened yesterday. 

 

If we want to change what's going to happen tomorrow.  

 

Whew, that got heavy for a second. So I want to finish off with one fun little bonus.

 

 

Yourself accountable for mistakes!

Being responsible at work means being responsible for your work and truthful about your mistakes...

 

Recall the previous instance of work responsibility whereby you had offered to cover for your colleague who had gone on holiday.

 When describing to your manager, describe how and why you went wrong without giving excuses.

Next time, you will make a better plan to keep your work in order and have more specific goals. Your boss will likely appreciate your honesty and firmness, although they are upset.

We all make mistakes, and owning up to them tends to bring solutions earlier. If you solve small problems early, they will not become large ones.

 

 

Tip four you. Actually, it is more of a reminder: 

Stay committed to skill development. You would not expect yourself to become a world-class gymnast overnight, so do not expect yourself to magically become self-accountable.  

But if it was, my point here is to have a long-haul mentality.

Think about growing this skill over time and just getting 1% more self-accountable than you were yesterday. That is going to make the biggest difference.

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I will also link a couple of writings that are really related to this one in terms of setting goals and actually following through.